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The Couple’s Reset: 6 to 8 sessions

Promise: In 6–8 sessions, you’ll calm the cycle, rebuild respectful communication, and create agreements you can actually follow—so you stop having the same fight.
Who it’s for:
Constant arguing or icy distance
One pursues, one shuts down
Trust is shaky (not necessarily full infidelity)
You want tools + structure, not open-ended therapy
You’re motivated to practice between sessions
Who it’s not for (protects you + builds trust)
Active addiction that’s not being treated
Ongoing affairs with no commitment to stop
Intimate partner violence or coercive control
One partner is already “checked out” and refusing to engage
Session Map (simple + compelling)
Session 1 — The Pattern Audit
Identify your conflict cycle (the “dance”), triggers, and what each person protects with their defenses. Set goals and immediate do’s/don’ts.
Session 2 — De-escalation + Repair
Stop escalation in real time. Learn a short repair script and how to come back together after conflict.
Session 3 — Communication Reset
Replace criticism/defensiveness with clear requests, active listening, and “what I need” language.
Session 4 — Needs, Boundaries, and Agreements
Clarify emotional needs and boundaries. Create 2–3 concrete agreements (including conflict rules).
Session 5 — Rebuilding Connection
Shift from roommates to partners: shared meaning, appreciation, affection, and weekly rituals.
Session 6 — The Hard Topic Session
Handle the issue you avoid (sex, money, parenting, in-laws, resentment). Guided conversation with containment.
Session 7 (optional) — Trust Repair Track
If needed: transparency agreements, rupture/repair steps, rebuilding safety.
Session 8 — Maintenance Plan
Relapse prevention: what to do when you slide, monthly check-in format, and next steps if deeper work is needed.

In office sessions in Burbank, California or online with Zoom. Sessions are 75 minutes and the fee per session is $250.00.

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When Sex Goes Away

In my private practice in Burbank, Ca, I often hear couple’s complaining that their partner will no longer have sex with them.  For some couple’s this time of no sex can last for months or even years. The partner who is no longer interested is often the female in the relationship, but not always. About 15% of the time it is the male.

Research shows that touch, hugs, kisses and sexual intercourse are important components in keeping couples emotionally close. When sex seems to have gone away, I advise couples to continue to shower together, to give each other massages and back rubs. When sitting on the sofa watching television, make it a point to touch.  Stay connected to each other’s bodies even if intercourse is not happening. This will go a long way in protecting your relationship over the “dry” spells.

Jeannette York, LMFT   818.200.9513

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Premarital Counseling

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Contact Jeannette York, LMFT for premarital counseling. (818.200.9513) Topics included are money, parenting, traditions, religion, sex, families, finances, Facebook,  and other topics that the couple determines are important.

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What does Co – Dependent Mean in a Love Relationship

The word Co-Dependent gets thrown around quite a bit these days. Often we hear about parents and Adult children in co-dependent relationships. The definition of co-dependence is excessive emotional dependence on another person. The part of the word that is “Co” is that the excessive dependence goes both ways but shows itself in different forms but really two sides of the same coin.

For example, a husband is dictated to by his wife. She demands to know where he is going at all times and where he is at all times. The wife controls the husbands where bouts and controls the money in the relationship. Sounds sad for the husband, right? The Co dependency comes in when the husband begins to ask the wife when and if he can go certain places or he “sneaks out” like a little boy. This couple has entered into a relationship in which the husband on some level is dependent on the wife to manage his life and the wife is emotionally dependent on the husband to behave like a son (child) and not a grown man. In healthy adult relationships, adults do not tell adults what to do.