One of the subjects that come up most often in couples counseling is mistrust. One partner has cheated either emotionally or physically and the other partner just isn’t sure if they can forgive and trust again. Without trust, there is not a healthy relationship.

The first conversation that needs to take place is for each of the partners to be able to describe to the other the impact of what happened on themselves and to describe to the other what they understand about the impact on their partner. There will be questions that the partner who was cheated on will feel compelled to ask. There is no way around the longing to know what the cheating involved. It is a tight rope that is best handled in therapy so that safely the couple can understand without shaming the partner who cheated.

Healing takes time and patience. There will be set backs but don’t be discouraged. You can each grow and heal from what happened.

Jeannette York, LMFT

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